10 Tips to Move Forward

Recently a good friend of mine was trying to figure out how to give away $1000 and they were mulling over the possible complications and conversations and was stuck on how to do this without a lot of drama, etc.

Too often we complicate what can be kept very simple.

The DLM Blog has a list of ten for achieving that goal:

How to Simplify a Complicated Decision

Posted: 23 Apr 2011 07:47 AM PDT

You make decisions every day, all day long. With all of that practice, why is it so easy to get hung up on the biggies?

• Snooze button or wake right up?
• Shower or bath?
• Coffee or tea?
• Button down shirt, or pull-over?
• Cereal or fruit?

That's a lot to think about all before breakfast. Those are not examples of complicated decisions. In fact, we can usually make those choices without a list of pros and cons, or giving them too much thought.

What happens when you need to make a big decision? The trick is to apply some of your gut instincts that you use in your daily, simple decision making to the big choices too. You know what's best for you and your family, and once you start to trust that, you will make better decisions faster.

10 Steps to Simplify a Complicated Decision

1. Be debt free
   Money will play into most of the choices you make. If you don't have debt, you can put less emphasis on the financial element of your decision.
   


2. Don't ask everyone about what you should do.
   If you ask 5 people to give you their opinion, you will get 5 different answers. That input will lead to second guessing and confusion. Consult the people who will be directly affected by your decision and let everyone else know what you've decided, with confidence.


3. High/Low
   What is the best thing and worst thing about each choice? Is the best thing worth putting up with the worst things?


4. Call it
   You may take time to actually make your decision, but when presented with the choice, your gut/heart/intuition or whatever it is that speaks to you, will give you an immediate answer. Write it down. That written answer could be the tie breaker.


5. Be grateful for the opportunity
   If you see your options as a burden instead of an opportunity, you may not choose wisely. Once you realize how fortunate you are to have the choice put in front of you, you can act accordingly.


6. Consider the escape clause.
   What happens if you back out? Recognizing that something is reversible, makes it easier to take the leap.


7. Take the pressure off.
   Chances are, this one choice you make is not going to save or ruin the world. Let go of the drama and consider the facts. Trust yourself. If you can't make a choice, go back to #4.


8. Consider option C.
   Often we put ourselves in a position of choosing A or B. Don't be afraid to create C. Things are not always either/or.


9. Rinse and repeat.
   Remember how you made your last great decision and do that again.


10. Believe it.
    Once you make your choice, believe in it. Know that you made the right decision for that moment and move forward. Let go of the what ifs and make the best of your new opportunity.

When considering a big decision, take your time and apply a few of the steps above. If you can keep it simple, you will have more clarity on the best way to move forward. Good luck simplifying your next complicated decision.

Written on 3/17/2009 by Courtney Carver. Courtney is a writer and fine art photographer. She wrote a book called Simple Ways to Be More with Less, and blogs three times a week. You can also find her on Twitter.

Photo Credit: Andrew.Beebe